MIMING CLIMAXES? PLAYING AT RAPE? WE’RE ALL IMPLICATED

FROM CASTIGATING THEM TO LOOKING AT OURSELVES I confess. I too decried  those activities of those university students. How could they even think it was okay, asking freshment to re-enact a rape, using a simulated climax as a forfeit? What was wrong with them? That was last week. Over the week end, an uncomfortable realization has … Continue reading

Immensely grateful to be a daughter of Singapore

It may be unfashionable but I’m shouting it out anyway –  It’s good being a daughter of Singapore. It’s something to be immensely grateful for. I had flown from the Little Red Dot to the North Eastern USA for a wedding and then a book reading in Virginia. Unexpectedly, my country offered me a launch in their … Continue reading

Stepping out of the box

I’m stepping out of the box. The last three nights I’ve had nightmares. They were all related to one of my two WIPS’s – the one about a detective solving a series of ritual cannibal murders. I needed saving from my own imagination! Youngest was the rescuing hero. Digging around the store-room under the staircase … Continue reading

A Singaporean Identity – Constance Singam, the epitome of true grit

For me, Constance Singam the Singapore feminist and civil society activist, is the epitome of true grit Brought up in a patriarchal South Indian Catholic household, almost promised off to a Kerala Indian boy in the next village when she was twelve, married for love soon after her first job to an older man and … Continue reading

A week both sweet and bitter

I’m exhausted from the week that was but thought I should check in with everyone just to let you know how everything’s been. It was seven days of both sweet and bitter. Sunday November 2nd –  I attended my first literary festival event as a panelist. I was euphoric seated between two world famous award winning writers. … Continue reading

Mid Autumn Spotlight on Marina Bay Sands

Sarah Pannir’s spotlighting Marina Bay Sands today, the Mid-Autumn Festival I campaigned against this casino development. Since its completion, we’ve had more problems with addicted gamblers, under-age commercial sex and tourists who drop in specially to commit crimes in our suburban housing estates. But, Sarah is right. Like any seductress, Marina Bay Sands is beautiful and beguiling. … Continue reading

Syria… September 11… Why they matter to me

I live in Singapore,  7,800 kilometres away from Syria and 15,400 kilometres from New York City. I’m black haired and under five feet tall. I don’t have an American accent or a navy blue passport, so its unlikely I’ll be shoved overboard a ship or thrown off a plane in the event of a hijacking.  I won’t, … Continue reading

Trade the high-flying life for this …

We’re just back from remote Lugu Lake, Yunnan China where a friend traded in her high-flying high-stress corporate lawyer’s life for this:   – the view from her front window – a handcrafted tribal living room – and time and more time to look back at her choices and write all about it. It was a … Continue reading

Effortless chic or cheap? Give up shopping and find out

Give up clothes-shopping for a year!!! That’s the challenge my fellow tribe-writers Kathleen Caron and Pamela Hodges are on. Following their progress, it seems to be turning out profitably. Giving up shopping isn’t only about saving money, but also time. It’s about regaining focus on what’s important in life. See Kathleen’s update about it here … Continue reading

Breathable air – A basic need I didn’t appreciate till last week

The worst haze since 1997 is choking us all up in Singapore. At 12 noon on Friday 21st June, the Pollutant Standard’s Index hit 401 in Singapore, the highest in Singapore’s history. The PSI, which measure sulphur dioxide, nitrogen dioxide, carbon monoxide, ozone and particulate matter of 10 microns or less in the atmosphere, exceeded … Continue reading